The Great Purge - Day 5
I’m done cleaning out Iain’s room minus some furniture and items my mom will keep that will be removed from the room. Tomorrow Jeff is staying home with the kids and doing some fun things with them and then the girls are staying the night at my in-laws’. My mom and I are doing lunch and then getting our hair done but I think afterward I’m going to start working on the girls’ room.
Today was much less stressful than yesterday. My mom wasn’t hovering so that made things so much more easy to clean out. I’m not sure what’s going to happen tomorrow since the bulk of what’s in the girls’ room is more of my mom’s old clothes. I guess I’ll just move most of it out to the living room where she swears she’ll sort through it. I hope she does it fairly quickly because we’re going to get estimates to get the floors refinished. I’m pulling up the carpet and we’re going to expose the wood and just redo the floors. I’m so over carpet.
Were still trying to figure out what to do with this house. Jeff is going to call the mortgage company and I’ll call the Realtor and see what our options are. We can’t carry two mortgages for long and my mom can’t afford to live by herself nor can she take care of anything that’s house related. The week we’ve been there she’s had a hell of a time walking and she’s in a lot of pain. She hasn’t been able to do any real home maintenance and my brother, as you all know, is useless.
In a normal market we wouldn’t be that concerned about selling; in this market, I have little confidence. Homes up and down the streets in my area, a nice area, are sitting on the market for months while people exit the state. It would be one thing if this was a result of our own bad choices. We made an investment for our family and lived a modest, comfortable life. Well, at least we have that. We’re taking care of my mom rather than my mom taking care of me, a grown adult. Had my father not re-mortgaged the house because of business debt (the house was paid off for years before he did) and cashed in their life insurance policies, we wouldn’t even be discussing this. But no, he left her high and dry and I admire her for getting this far essentially by herself.
Someone let me know when this is over.
P.S. I want to thank my friends for being the best friends a person could ever have. Your support over these last few days and weeks has meant so much and especially because it’s so sincere and loving. I know this sounds queer but seriously, it’s really appreciated. I’m a lucky woman surrounded by good people. Thank you.
